Just so I grasp what you are saying:
1. You want the game to punish players who farmed gear, know their rotations and have a better rig so that the DPS is equal? I would say thats your own fault if your dps is low and others should not get punished for it.
2. Bombarded where exactly? I have yet to see any advertisement about buying stuff from the hm store
3. Most players don't use F8 anymore. They create parties on the server directly.
4. The F8 list is updated every once in a while and less relevant dungeons are removed from the list, but you can still enter them from the normal entrance on the server.
5. I agree the boost was a bit too much, but they are correcting that next Wednesday.
6. That is the entire point of premium though. If you don't want it, then do not get it, and live without those few QoL things.
7. On the box opening part and such I do agree, the other things you mentioned are kind of "moot" because simple mode was mentioned to be an alternative but not a full replacement for a proper rotation. Edits aren't that bad if used in PVE imo, but...the ones you described you played with for FM are considered cheats because they should never work automatically.
Seems to me most of the things you listed are a personal problem and not a game problem o.o