I have to agree with a lot of this. I have just started playing got a 27 summoner which I got bored of, and levelled a destroyer to 20 on Friday night. The community is pretty shitty, first five times I ran black ram no one said anything and just plowed through. Even had a destroyer bid war me on the cats head gear. He's now on ignore with his clan. Also for an M rated game, the cerulean chat after 9 pm turns into utter crap. Some of the chat on my server is pathetic.
i could not tell you what the problem is nor a solution, only time will tell.